tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post6665473818435709761..comments2023-10-05T06:25:30.361-07:00Comments on The Delicate Balance: Being a Spouse of a Person With Type 1 Diabetes: Rude AwakeningAshley Wendelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105400567240252583noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post-45772521554865161752018-01-12T11:51:59.197-08:002018-01-12T11:51:59.197-08:00Hi Anonymous,
Sorry for not responding to you soon...Hi Anonymous,<br />Sorry for not responding to you sooner. You are not alone. All of us spouses understand and can empathize with your middle of the night experience. We've lived it too. It is frightening and I hope that you're able to share with your husband how scary it is for you. It's important for him to understand how altered he actually becomes when he's that low and that it IS that bad (for you both). Being partners is about you being able to share that and him being able to hear it. It takes a team. I hope you're doing alright. Take care.Ashley Wendelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10105400567240252583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post-42123953865923850552017-10-18T15:35:03.138-07:002017-10-18T15:35:03.138-07:00My husband is T1 since age 14, now 46. Last night ...My husband is T1 since age 14, now 46. Last night was another low, though not near as bad as most, has stayed with me all day. I'm having such a hard time shaking it. He usually doesn't remember much after like a drunk, and always says it's not that bad. He has no idea how terrifying it is for me. There's always that thought of what if I can't get him back up this time. I can't lie that last night was also mixed with a bit of anger for him not taking better care of himself. He's been sneaking sweets. He already has diabetic retinopathy. We have 2 small children. Thankfully they haven't had to bear witness to an episode yet, but I can only imagine how it will effect them when they do. <br />Today I have felt completely alone. I don't know anyone else who would understand what it is to wake up in the middle of the night, to their loved one cold and clammy, with a blank stare, acting like a drunk or worse in middle of a seizure knowing you are the first responder. It's something you can't possibly understand until you've lived it. It definitely stays with you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post-63462758692211793642017-04-24T02:14:10.358-07:002017-04-24T02:14:10.358-07:00This blog and comments were so helpful doe my stat...This blog and comments were so helpful doe my state of mind after dealing with another night low. Thank you. I am wondering where everyone one is as I don't see any recent posts. Anon in NAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post-61366919157606402052015-01-09T14:07:27.596-08:002015-01-09T14:07:27.596-08:00Hi - just to say I understand this completely. My ...Hi - just to say I understand this completely. My wife has had T1 for over 30 years now but recently her awareness of being low has become very shaky i.e. she usually doesn't know, and like the guy in the video above is often very unco-opertive when she is low. Like you I constantly live with "what if I don't notice / wake up / if I'm not around etc." We have had about a dozen serious nighttime incidents in the last 2 years or so which has pushed me quite hard. As you say when it's over, it's over - except it isn't. My wife tidies up and goes back to sleep but I have all this adrenalin washing round which can last for days. And the whole process is cumulative so that I have found it has a gradually wearing effect and in my case has recently led to total exhaustion with the situation. No solutions to offer I'm afraid but I agree it doesn't help to get worked up and insistant. Keeping calm and working the situation seems to be best. Even if the last three mouthfuls were spat out (which happens) if the next one goes in then we're making progress. <br /><br />Thanks for your honesty and good luck! <br /><br />Les (informationplus@compuserve.com)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post-72739489916611405362013-08-24T00:40:48.435-07:002013-08-24T00:40:48.435-07:00Hi I just start a relation ship some months ago to...Hi I just start a relation ship some months ago tough it is very serious and we decided to move toguether since we are not from the same country I have to go back to mine to fix the visa and all that and start with our life we want to get married, I haven t deal with diabetis before he s T1 since he was 8 now 28, but for me is so new I didn t know anything and now I am reading as much as i can more since he had one of that bad episodes the other night and I didnt know well how to react, I was so scared since then he had another 2 but I knew what to do this time, what is driving me crazy is even tough he has been living alone the last years before he met me and manage to do it well with just 1 exeption, I am so scared to leave him alone this two months I have to go back to my country I can t stop wonderig what if Im not there to help him and he has one of this episodes, do you know how can we manage? what are the steps you and your husband takes when you are on travel? if you could give me some tips that would help a lot :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16951904232651417789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post-47154750116332299882013-08-04T16:56:05.362-07:002013-08-04T16:56:05.362-07:00My spouse is also type 1 w a pump. When he goes hy...My spouse is also type 1 w a pump. When he goes hypoglycemic and has seizures I am usually ok with it. I wake up as soon as I feel he's gettin sweaty and we usually catch it quick. His body knows to eat glucose tabs or the glucose gel when I feed it to him. Juice is impossible. Then he comes back up and we go on with our lives. But he had a very bad one 3 nights ago. I thought I caught it early and got him to eat 4 glucose tabs they unfortunately did not work quick enough. There was a moment he stopped breathing and we ended up staying the morning in the er. Normally I can get through the lows just fine but this one had me so scared and the image of him laying there not breathing will not leave my mind. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4400315208872910657.post-52613791627724976602013-07-18T08:21:55.259-07:002013-07-18T08:21:55.259-07:00I struggle with the emotions after. Sometimes I c...I struggle with the emotions after. Sometimes I can let it go, some times I can't and I need to learn to. I have the mentality that it is what it is too but it can linger in my mind. I am however going to try your not talking as I think that is genius! sometimes it goes the other way and becomes a verbal struggle! as he insists he's ok when clearly he isn't!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com